A few of the comments on a recent reactionary post I wrote are getting… a little out-of-hand, I’d say.
I don’t censor any non-spamming comments on my posts because I find great value in upholding the right to free speech and sharing of ideas. I personally feel that disapproving certain comments that rub me the wrong way could be likened to demanding that a breastfeeding mother throw a cover over her torso and child when in public just because someone can’t handle it.
Now I must learn how to handle things I don’t agree with too, such as antagonistic comments. (A heavy bet that zero of the nay-saying commenters would dare peep a word directly to me if they actually saw me breastfeeding in public).
Here is one commenter’s example of the general attitude expressed by some (bold emphasis and reformatting are mine):
“The biggest problems I have with your reply to that article are,
A) You are being extremely disrespectful of her opinion instead of simply stating your own. She didn’t make fun of mothers who feel the need to breastfeed in public without a cover, you are poking fun at her opinion. Grow up.
B) Nothing against you personally, but why do mothers feel the need to turn a beautiful bonding moment with their babies into a public battle? Just a question I have.
And C) The comments you made about her husband and child. I don’t want my husband looking at anyone else’s boobs, regardless of what they’re being used for. I don’t want my child to either. It makes them both uncomfortable and I have no problem explaining to my children what breastfeeding is and how it’s beautiful, but I don’t have to go into an anatomy session with my 5 year old boy about a strangers breasts either. And bottom line, my marriage is none of your business and how I raise my children are none of your business.
I think a big problem with our society today is that women think being able to show parts of ourselves is freedom or equality, it’s just not. We as women have the freedom to be classy and respectful of other people’s opinions and feelings in public, but nobody wants to talk about that. No one wants to just shut up and take a second to understand that I have just as much a right to be comfortable as you do.
So why not compromise? The writer and myself are not asking you not to breastfeed in public all together, although if I were breastfeeding I would [not do it publicly] for the sake of bonding and I would pump when going out if possible, we are simply asking that you compromise.
Why is it that we can and you cannot? Is it really about feeding your baby at that point? Or more about feeding your ego?”
I assume the commenter expected or hoped for a direct response, so here it is: