This One’s On Me

First — yes, my last name really is Milkowski, emphasis on the milk!

I’m a homeshooling/unschooling mother of two boys, one born in 2012 and the other in 2016. I started this blog in 2014 as an outlet for writing about my breastfeeding experiences, which include in no particular order:

  • tandem nursing
  • sleep nursing
  • breastfeeding during pregnancy
  • introducing solids while breastfeeding
  • full-term nursing (child-led weaning)
  • public breastfeeding
  • breastfeeding with a vegan diet
  • traveling while breastfeeding
  • donating breast milk

…and dealing with some obstacles like:

  • thrush
  • milk blebs
  • oversupply
  • clogged ducts
  • recurrent mastitis
  • nursing aversion
  • family/stranger disapproval & harassment
  • pumping struggles
  • bad advice from medical professionals

Breastfeeding is ideal, it’s normal, it’s the standard, and for young mammalian nurslings… it is everything. (No chaser!) Breastfeeding is “a biological imperative” (thanks, Alanis Morissette). Is breastfeeding itself an imperative for good parenting? Of course not. But until recently when formula became available, children could not thrive or even live without breastfeeding. And so breastfeeding isn’t a lifestyle choice, it’s just how babies are naturally fed.

A nursing parent continues to give their best/their love/the utmost of their spirit and soul and body to their children even after the milk runs dry. It’s how babies were designed to first learn about love. I don’t think there’s only one way to nourish a child with one’s liquid gold. But here I’m sharing with you how *I* am doing it, and also introduce you to the many beautiful ways that other nursing folks do it.

I write a bit about other peaceful parenting topics like cosleeping, genital autonomy, and raising little vegans.

I’m also a childbirth instructor, holistic labor doula, and placenta specialist. Please check out my offerings at Your Labor Neighbor.

Thank you for reading, commenting, and sharing,

Holly M.


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